The Beginner’s Guide To Phone Sex Phrases

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Covid-19 did a number on the steamy chemistry many relationships have. Missing out on leg flirting and sultry eyed hints suck. Since you’re stuck at home and can’t do it in person doesn’t mean you have to miss all the joys of a steamy romance. 

Phone sex is a lot common than what people think. And no, it’s not weird. People are always hesitant to start with phone sex. Like they say the first step is the hardest. So if you have been wondering what to say during phone sex. Here’s something that will help you.

Disclaimer – This article is all-inclusive and is not limited to heterosexual couples.

1. Make sure you and your partner are comfortable

Like all things sexual or romantic phone sex too starts with consent. Make sure your partner is saying yes for the right reasons and not just to please. Tell them that they too have the power to stop the conversation at any point they feel uncomfortable.

If they have certain concerns then make adjustments accordingly. e.g. they are worried their parents or roommates will hear them you can go for sexting instead. If they don’t want to do it or feel uncomfortable do not push them. Everyone has different preferences. 

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2. How to approach?

Now, this is tricky. A lot of people feel shy to ask their partners which is completely normal. Here are a few phone sex phrases to say to him.  

  • “Hey I have been thinking about you, how about we fix a time and I can tell you about my fantasies?”
  • “Do you want to know what I’m wearing? I could tell you in detail if you want?”
  • “So since we won’t be seeing each other for a while, do you wanna try something different like phone sex?”

3. Be open about the language you want to use

A lot of people are mostly aware of what their partner like to be called during sex, or how they like to refer to their anatomy. But preferences might differ when you are not physically together. Be open about what kind of things you’re into, it will encourage them to be open about what they like. 

4. Start with what makes you comfortable

Now that you and your partner are on the same page, time for the sparks to fly. 

People have different preferences for how they would like to start. But if it is your first time it’s likely that there will be a little awkwardness. To approach you can start with:

Phone sex phrases for when walking down the memory lane

  • “What are you wearing?”
  • “Tonight reminds of the first time we ….”
  • “I can still picture you in those jeans”

Phone sex phrases for when starting with fantasies

  • “If you were here, I would ….”
  • “What would you do if we were together?”
  • “I miss you, I want to ….”
  • “I can’t stop thinking about all the things I’m going to do to you the next time we meet”

Phone sex phrases for when role playing

This one is not universal but usually when in the mood for role-playing you can just jump in eg. 

  • “I was just thinking, If you were a doctor you would look sexy AF in scrubs.”

Phone sex phrases for starting with what you are doing

  • “I just got out of the shower. Can’t decide what to wear, any suggestions?”
  • “I’m wearing ….”

5. Masturbating during Phone sex

Honestly, Otherwise, what’s the point? You gotta give and take pleasure. Plus masturbating gets you in the mood. Once you get all hot and bothered all the initial awkwardness is gonna disappear. Plus masturbation makes things steamier and more genuine. Once you hear your partner moaning its gonna spur you on. 

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6. Do’s & Don’ts

  •  Do dress up like you would for a real date. You need to feel the part. It not only makes you feel good and enthusiastic but it gives you something naughty to talk about when you describe what you are wearing.
  •  Do keep toys handy if you are into that. This is totally up to you. But, if you are into using toys, keep them handy. Searching for your vibrator while you are on call kills the mood.
  • Do keep it detailed and personal. Details keep the conversation flowing. It also helps when you feel a little awkwardness brewing.
  • Do make sure they are comfortable after short intervals. Remember consent can be retracted. Make sure you are both comfortable every step of the way
  • Do tell them if something is making you uncomfortable. Your consent and pleasure matter just as much as theirs. If something is making you uncomfortable don’t keep going to make your partner happy. Establish a healthy communication.
  • Do tell them if something has killed the mood for you. But be gentle.
  • Don’t shut them down immediately if it isn’t something you’re into. Unless it has really bothered you keep an open mind.
  • Don’t be afraid to practice a little. You can read some smutty books to give you an idea. You can even get your self a little rile up just so can get in the mood.
  • Don’t be afraid to share what you like. Again this falls under healthy communication. It will make you both comfortable and in setting the scene.

7. To spice things up

Phone sex does not necessarily have to be a smutty conversation. There are plenty of ways for you to switch up and make it hotter:

  • Read some smutty books for each other. You can even act out the roles
  • Put on porn of your choice. You can even describe what they are doing and what you want to do. 
  • Don’t be shy with the sounds. It is very subjective some people are very vocal some are not. But if you are usually vocal and are just feeling shy, here’s the deal, your moans not only get you in the mood they make your partner feel amazing too.

Also read: 6 Quickie Sex Positions To Spice Up Your Sex Life

Also read: Want To Try Car Sex? Consider These Things Before You Try It!

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