Brace yourself ladies- we are going to talk about a visit to the O-town! For women to achieve orgasm it can be quite a task and there is no proof that we have ‘cum’ unless you are a squirter. Men have it easy during sex, much easily aroused and even easier to climax. For us ladies, sexual arousal, satisfaction, and orgasm is a long drawn process and is an amalgamation of not only physical factors but also psychological, emotional and even environmental (where you are fornicating) factors. Porn or erotica isn’t exactly the correct guide to how and what female orgasm is- since it is play-acting.
During orgasm, the blood vessels in your body dilate, especially in your genitals, and there is a surge of blood flow along with an increased heartbeat. The muscles down under or all over your body spasm as there is a release of all the built-up sexual tension, often you can feel breathless, tingling sensations in your body and a washed over feeling. When orgasm occurs, the brain releases dopamine and oxytocin- the chemicals that make you feel HAPPY!
You can’t really miss the feeling if you had it! About 40% of women have said that they have never experienced the BIG O ever, and it’s perfectly normal. Most of the time our own expectations, lack of communication among partners, and wrong methods make us miss the prize. Sex is a pleasure activity, you don’t need to make it a mission.
According to researchers, Masters and Johnson’s female orgasm is a four-fold process:
A female orgasm lasts anywhere between 13-50 seconds and unlike a man, women don’t have a refractory or recovery phase, so we become capable of multiple orgasms, with the right stimulation. Cosmopolitan says that there are over 18 kinds of orgasms to be achieved, but the majority of the women have felt these 4:
Not all of us are lucky enough to orgasm each time we have a romp, and it’s not always the dude’s fault, but yeah they could spend some extra time on us. But it has been found by Planet Parenthood that 1 out of 3- women find it hard to orgasm, especially when in their 20s. In over 50% of cases, vaginal penetration does not lead to orgasm, rather stimulation of the clitoris, either orally, with a toy or with fingers, has a greater chance of making a woman climax. Masturbation is one of the best ways to orgasm, and once you have figured out, what works best for you, share that secret with your partner. It has also been seen that mature women orgasm more.
Medications Hamper Pleasure: certain medicines inhibit your ability to orgasm. Especially medications for stress, depression, and anxiety lowers libido.
P-in-V doesn’t always work: your partner just thrusting inside you doesn’t help. Ask him to take things slow and indulge in some foreplay.
Stress spoils sex: stress about work, life or sexual stress like whether you are doing the act properly or can you get pregnant or get some infection. Stressful thoughts can decrease your chances of orgasm. Often when you think too much about climaxing you kill your chances of orgasming IRL.
Lubes help: most women don’t produce enough lubrication, so a little assistance can help you attain pleasure.
Sex isn’t just about physical intercourse but also the emotional connection. So, leave those doubts and self-consciousness out of your bedroom. Remember that every woman is different, so are their bodies and needs. There can’t be a generalized rule to have sex. The fun lies in experimenting and finding what works best for you. So ladies don’t fake it, learn how best to achieve it!
Also Read: 10 Female Orgasm Pressure Points