The Fascinating Art of BDSM

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Isha Surabhi
An English majors graduate, former editor to two magazines, former Senior Content Writer to DU Times and a dedicated litterateur, for whom writing is the most aesthetic form of expression!

If you are the one who feels like having kinky sex, or you are the one who wants to be submissive to your partner while he treats you on the bed, then you are the one into it already!!! BDSM- A sexual and erotic way of practicing the intercourse and yet another attractive idea attracting many today as people are acknowledging its undercurrents. So, we are here to reveal things about the same that you never knew about:-

BDSM as a term:-

It’s a term that’s used in its abbreviation form generally but carries a whole lot of detailed name behind it. It can be decoded as, (B/D) -bondage and discipline, (D/S) -dominance and submission and (S/M) -Sadism and Masochism. Having appeared for the first time in 1991, it was something not many gulped down their throat well! 

Origin:- It originates from the Paleolithic era as such kinky things and experimentation is nothing new to humankind. We as a society may not acknowledge it, but in the ancient manuscripts, the idols, it’s quite evident that it existed. 

The increasing numbers:– Earlier, a survey showed how only 15-20% of Americans tried having it at least once but the new graphs reveal that 80% of the world’s population has tried it once. It has made its way into the mainstream popularity through recent books and movies being shown about the same. Even the membership figures of the site Fetlife has increased by a million fold, unexpectedly. 

It may be a hard time believing such things… but this is the truth. Also, it’s quite a matter of significance for all the genders, that this domination is not to be confused with the notion of forceful intercourse. It’s something well consented!

Here are some pleasurable experimentations you can definitely go forth with if you and your partner are into it-

Spanking pleasure:– Of course, you are known to the idea of spanking, go spank it up! It is a well guaranteed pleasurable activity for both you and your partner, to spank each other while making them bend over a table or bed. Another good way would be to caress in between the slaps. As you increase the force so does the sensation gets increased. A strap or paddle can also be put to good use for those who can bear the pain well. 

Roleplay:- This is another famous and happening kind of experiment. It allows you to be anything and everything to your partner while you have sex. You can play-doctor nurse, student-teacher or anything that you find comforting yet sensational. Just imagine how appealing it can be! 

Bondage domination:-  This is one of the most exhilarating parts of BDSM where you know how submissive you and your partner can be! It can be initiated with you tying a rope to the partner’s hands, and then let your hands find its way to the crotch area of the partner. This is not just exciting but can crave your partner for retaliation. 

Worshiping the best:- It refers to the idea of spending the utmost time of your foreplay in caressing the most favorite part of your partner’s body! Foreplay is always much hotter than the actual sex. So, instead of hurrying up the process, let your body seek this pleasure. The best part can be an any-for instance, breasts, earlobes, neck, crotch. You can massage, tickle, food play with that erogenous zone to let your partner crave for more! 

Fetish fun:– Fetishness is a broad idea that conceives almost everything ranging from leather, heels, to fur, etc. The only thing to be kept in mind while trying this is the idea of safety and concern as it takes into account a lot of painful stuff too. The painful yet pleasurable things involve experiments with a leather belt, high heels, hot wax; while the lighter ones include wearing lace lingerie and strip teasing your partner. It can be anything that you both consider as seductive. 

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Compressing the organs:– This is inclusive of compressing the erotic zones of the body with something that squeezes or stings the partner. You can put a clothespin on the breasts or nipples or can squeeze the breasts hard. This is something that can make your partner crave for you to their worst level. An amalgamation on pleasure and pain, it’s one of the best things for those who can stand a mild pain. 

These were some of the steps which can very well be followed by your kinky self!!! But before you try this, one thing is utmost prior, and that is the idea of consent and mutual respect. If that is not present, it will be nothing less than molestation and rape! You should always have an acknowledgment about your partner’s interest in BDSM. Also, one thing BDSM community members always adhere to is a stop word. The stop word means a word in which you speak when you want your partner to stop. Commonly the word 🔴 ‘red’ is put to such usage, but you can choose any word that seems to work for you both. 

So yeah, get in your bedroom and let your body indulge into the deepest trenches of kink! 

Exist boldly! 💚