Everyone’s sexual preferences tend to vary; nobody gets to decide if a particular sexual preference or habit is weird or if something else is good because it depends on personal choices. So, if you have a foot fetish, then that’s your personal choice, and if you’re into roleplay, then that is completely up to you too. BDSM is one such aspect of sexual preferences that tend to be greatly common, yet some people have a difficult time coming around, especially when it comes to BDSM positions and how to practice those in the bedroom. But, don’t you worry because this guide on BDSM poses and positions is going to help you out. But first, let’s learn a little bit about BDSM.
What is BDSM?
BDSM is an acronym that is commonly used for these 4 groups known as ‘bondage and discipline, dominance and submission, sadism and masochism.’ It is more or less one of the many ways to indulge in erotic and sexual behavior. People who indulge in BDSM, especially those who get involved more regularly, often tend to have a ‘safe word’; it can be anything, even non-sexual and it ensures a sense of safety as it is used by one if they feel that things are starting to go a bit out of hand.
BDSM Poses and Positions
Here’s all you need to know about what kind of BDSM positions there are and how to use them in the bedroom!
1. Missionary While Being Tied to the Bed
If you’re someone who is into kink comes from being dominated and submitting, then this is one of the best positions for you. Lie down on the bed on your back and make sure that your hands are stretched out above your head, and have your partner secure your hands with a scarf. And if you want to get kinkier, then you could even use ropes or handcuffs. Then simply let your partner get on top and do the work! However, if you still want to try this out but you’re kind of freaked out about your hands being tied, just don’t tie them and instead, put them behind your head and resist using them for as long as you feel like.
BDSM Poses2. Blind Doggy Style
This is yet another one of the best submissive sexual positions because it gives your partner control while you wear a blindfold. A blindfold can create a sexy and enigmatic atmosphere that can heat things even more, so, while you’re blindfolded, you won’t be able to anticipate your partner’s next move. For this style, get into the doggy pose and make sure you’re blindfolded, then simply let your partner take the control and they could tease you by doing anything, but you wouldn’t have seen it coming, which makes it all the more exciting. Also, if you don’t have a blindfold, you could use a bandana or even a tie as a substitute.
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3. Spooning with a Little Twist
Even cuddling positions can be turned into sexy ones with bondage and BDSM props. While you and your partner are spooning, have your partner tie your wrists with a tie, scarf, or handcuffs in front of your body and let them lead by initiating foreplay and slowly heating things or starting rough right from the beginning. They could even blindfold you for the element of excitement and surprise.
4. Sensational Bondage
Anything can be made more erotic with the help of bondage positions. Turn things around a bit in this one, and let your partner be the one being dominated now. Have your partner sit in a straight-back chair and tie their wrists behind the chair and their legs to the legs of the chair with a scarf or ropes, as per your and your partner’s convenience. Now, for an extra touch, blindfold them to make things spicier because then they won’t be able to see any of your moves coming. Start by teasing them with a soft feather or a sexy slap and then make it sexy the way you would want to.
5. Blowing From a Chair
It’s time for some feisty oral sex but in BDSM style. While you sit in a straight-back chair, let your partner tie your wrists behind the chair and your ankles to the legs of the chair and let them dominate you into giving them a blowjob of their life. This is also one of the best submissive positions wherein you can use sex toys.
Important Tips to Remember
Although BDSM can be sexy, there are certain things to keep in mind before proceeding:
- Set some ground rules with your partner, decide on a ‘safe word’ so that you can stop whenever you want, and have a thorough conversation on your preferences, likes, and dislikes so that both of you would be aware of the other person’s comfort zone.
- If you’re planning on going for a sensational bondage position, then it is better to talk about what you or your partner would like beforehand, for instance, ask your partner if they would be okay with you going rough or if they would want you to be soft and sensational before indulging in the act.
- If you’re trying out a bondage position that involves tying of the hands and/or legs, a smooth cloth like a scarf is often recommended over ropes and handcuffs, especially for beginners; you could go with the latter props too, but don’t do that if you’re not 100% sure about it.
- Don’t force or push your partner into doing something that they aren’t that comfortable with and make sure that doesn’t happen with you either.
- If you’re using a rope as a prop, make sure that it doesn’t hurt your hands and/or ankles too much; you could get special velvet ropes for this if you want.
- If you see any signs of resistance or if your partner starts to feel uncomfortable in the middle of the act, then you should stop then and there. Make sure you talk about this with your partner so you’re both on the same page.
Now, you’re all set to try these amazingly sexy BDSM positions out with your partner! And don’t forget to practice safe sex.
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