Sex After Sixty: How To Keep The Fire Alive?

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Contrary to popular belief, sex isn’t exclusively for youngsters. Many seniors, well into their 60s and beyond, continue to embrace their sexuality. It is rightly said – Sex isn’t like a carton of milk that goes sour after a certain date. Sex after sixty is more like perfect wine – it gets better with age.

Healthy sex life is not only delightful, but it also benefits other facets of your life, such as your physical well-being and self-esteem. Just because you’ve reached the “golden” age doesn’t mean you should retire to a nursing facility and wait for the end of the line. 

Growing older does not always imply a reduction in attractiveness or sex; it may also provide the opportunity to have passionate sexual interactions. As you become older, you gain more independence, (kids away, retired life)- you can rekindle the passion that would have flown away during your middle years..

Sex After 60: How to have a healthy sexual life?

It’s common to have changes in sexual desire and behavior throughout your life. This is especially true as you approach retirement. Some individuals believe that older individuals are incapable of having sex. Many people, however, are sexually active throughout their lives.

Later in life, intimacy and connection are still crucial. The frequency of sex when you were younger may be the strongest predictor of sexual desire and engagement in your later years. 

If sex is crucial to your lifestyle and happiness at 30, it will most likely be so at 60. Many people have a healthy sex life well into their elder years. People are living longer lives as a result of increased medical treatment, diet, and healthcare.

In those later years, the quality of life is also improving. As a result, maintaining healthy sexual relationships has gotten easier. According to studies, the frequency of sex older people have is at least two times per month while nearly a quarter have it at least once a week. 

Improve your sex life after 65:

  • Start with the foreplay. Natural lubrication is stimulated by foreplay.
  • Ensure that proper lubrication is used. Consider using an over-the-counter lubricant like lubricating jelly. If sex is still uncomfortable, talk to your doctor about vaginal estrogen therapy, which comes in the form of a cream, pill, or ring.
  • Experiment with different positions to see which one feels the most comfortable.
  • Consult your doctor regarding the use of a vaginal dilator. It may take some time for the vagina to expand enough to accommodate a penis after a lengthy period of abstinence.

A dilator is a flexible tube that you may use to stretch your vaginal tissues gently. Your doctor can assist you in selecting the appropriate size. He or she may advise you to use the dilator many times a week for many minutes at a time. For a similar result, you might use a vibrator a few times a week.

Guide to sex after sixty:

Hormonal changes

New challenges might momentarily dampen your love life during midlife – at the age of 45 or so. Sex hormones drop dramatically. Menopause causes a drop in estrogen and androgens in women. 

The vaginal walls shrink and become drier. Around the same time, men’s testosterone and estrogen levels fall. This might make getting an erection difficult (erectile dysfunction, or ED). Changes in the brain and the blood flow switch things up, too.

Vaginal Changes

Women’s major sexual issues include difficulty reaching orgasm, a lack of desire, and vaginal dryness. With aging, your vaginal canal narrows and shortens. It doesn’t get wet as quickly as it used to when you were in your 20s.

When you have sex, this can be painful. Vaginal moisturizers, lubricating condoms, and water-based lubricating jelly may help. Your doctor may also recommend vaginal estrogen, which is available as a cream, pill, tablet, or implant.

Erectile dysfunction

Erectile dysfunction, or ED, is the most common age-related sexual condition among males. Erections don’t occur as often as they used to, and they don’t last as long as they used to. 

Your partner’s penis may not get as hard or as large as it once was. One of four ED medications might be the solution. However, they can have negative consequences. They may potentially interact with nitrate-containing medications. 

Be careful of herbal remedies and pills that claim to provide a quick remedy. Always consult with your doctor before attempting to use them.

Diabetes

Men, particularly those with type 2 diabetes, can develop ED. Poor blood sugar management can harm neurons and blood arteries that feed the genital organs over time. Medication, a penis pump, or even a penile implant may be of assistance. 

Women with this illness may experience decreased sensation in their genitals. It also leads to an increase in vaginal yeast infections, which irritate the region and make it difficult or uncomfortable to touch.

Get creative in bed 

New methods to enjoy sex might be sparked by common sense and a creative attitude. If a leveled surface doesn’t work for your knees, for example, a new position or specific furniture might provide a different angle. 

A vibrator can assist you to get your blood flowing if you’re having trouble becoming aroused. If you’ve been inactive for a long time, it’s normal to be concerned about “getting back into the groove of things.” However, simply having sex might be beneficial.

Safe sex still keeps a hold

STDs are the disease of equal opportunity: They don’t make any distinctions based on age. You’re at risk for STDs if you’re sexually active. Chlamydia, genital warts, herpes, gonorrhea, hepatitis B, syphilis, and trichomoniasis are only a few of them. 

In addition, the number of elderly people living with HIV and AIDS is on the rise. Always keep up with your exams and testing, use condoms, and have open lines of contact with your doctor.

Other challenges

Weight gain, arthritis, chronic pain, bladder control issues, dementia, high blood pressure or cholesterol, medication side effects, depression, and stroke are among physical illnesses that might influence your sex life. Surgery can also alter your self-image and how you feel, particularly in the sexual region. 

Talk about how you can stay close to each other and try to find quirky ways to have sex after sixty.

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