The discussion on sexuality and sex has become extremely open these days, but still, the topic of female masturbation is hush-hush and taboo especially in a conservative country like India. When we talk about masturbation, we end up associating it with only men, but nothing can be further from the truth. Sex is a primitive requirement, and why would women be asked to depend on a man for sexual gratification. You can be satisfied with your own self ladies, and there is nothing wrong with it. So let’s debunk some myths and learn how best to satisfy yourself.
With the onset of puberty, our bodies start developing and we start exploring our sexuality. No sex-education or biology class can teach us as much about our bodies as we can learn by exploring on our own.
The myths about female masturbation stem from ignorance and religious and social dogmas that have engulfed society for centuries. It is extremely normal and healthy to masturbate and the choice is extremely personal. Loving yourself isn’t a crime, rather it’s a form of self-care.
The benefits of female masturbation and the orgasm that leads to it are manifold.
There are different methods of female masturbation depending on the area you stimulate like- clitoral, vaginal, anal, combo, and the erogenous zone. To start your self pleasuring session you need to be prepared to reach that big O:
Only sex with a partner doesn’t require mood-setting, a solo session also requires it. Play some nice music, dim the lights and if scented candles are your thing, then light away.
When self-pleasuring, keep the lubricant handy- it will increase the pleasure.
Take your time while masturbating, explore your body and enjoy yourself.
Though most women feel, hands are the best way to explore, but sex toys like dildos and vibrators come in handy. They have been built for your pleasure!
Some women are turned on by written word- have a stash of erotica literature handy or if the romantic scenes do it for you, then play your favorite make-out movie. Explore other erogenous zone-breasts, nipples, ears, neck, and inner thighs are extremely erogenous. Concentrate on these areas too and see the change in your experience.
Lying on your back- this is the best position for clitoral stimulation, try a pace that most suits you.
Squatting – for achieving mind-blowing orgasm through vaginal stimulation, try this position. You can reach your G-spot through this position.
You can masturbate in front of a mirror, as it can be extremely scintillating and wild, alternatively, play with your body and genitalia to get a better experience. Trisha Borowicz, director of Science Sex and Ladies has told Cosmopolitan that grinding your vulva against certain objects can be extremely gratifying. It can be a removable shower head or your pillow.
Masturbation helps to focus on your own needs exclusively. You don’t need to think about pleasuring anyone else. The rate of masturbation depends on individual desires and wants. Though excessive masturbation isn’t good, as it can start to interfere with your life and vigorous and regular stimulation can make the delicate erogenous areas raw and injured.
Often people in a relationship opt to masturbate if they are in a long-distance relationship. Many times couples have mutual masturbation sessions as it can spice up their sex life. Self-satisfaction can make couples much happier. Too much dependence on masturbation while in a relationship is harmful as it can lead to trust issues, inadequate expression of feelings and intimacy issues. But once in a while, you can indulge in some self-love.
So, shut those doors and have some fun!
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