Why Do Women Indulge In Gossip?

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Mimansha Ranjan
A Poetess of the wild type. Potterhead. Bewildered by the Cosmos and Space. A Biochemist by day and a writer by night.

Women are considered inquisitive. They are often shown to be interested in gossiping. But is it true or just a false picture; a stereotype? The long hours spent in the lavatory where women go in groups are considered a gossip spot. But why do women indulge in gossip?

All the women involved in gossip talk about other women behind their backs. Talking about the promotion, demotion, breakups of other women. Is this an honest portrayal of our nature or just an annoying trait that we have cultivated in our souls? We are shown to engage in gossip a lot more than men do. Let’s find out if it’s true.

Gossiping is bad. Sharing and talking about your feelings or some incident that has happened to you is normal. But taking a dip on someone else’s plight or life is gossip and it is wrong. To talk about someone else’s life behind their back is not correct. How can you avoid gossip? Gossip about women by women is bizarre.

Who Gossips More?

It was proved in research that women involved in gossip less frequently than men did. Men gossip about women more than we do.  Men banter and talk in the boys’ locker room, but they don’t consider it as gossip. Even though in all senses it fits properly in the definition of gossip.

Maybe we are equally blamed for circulating gossip. It has nothing to do with your gender. It is just a practice that we have learned. It is a bad habit to participate in gossip. Sometimes we unintentionally become a part of it.

Why Do Women Indulge In Gossip?

We gossip about women who are our friend, colleague, neighbour, etc. We do so to be an active member of a group. To socialize with our friends and colleagues. We gossip to appear more interesting. 

Sometimes women gossip to feel a certain sense of power or dominance. Gossiping is a kind of indirect bullying. If you gossip about your colleague who got promoted, it is unhealthy. 

Different Types Of Gossip

There are different types of gossip. It can be false news that might spread like a wildfire. It could be a rumour that someone started. It might have been modified by each person who was a part of this gossip. 

Sometimes gossip can be just badmouthing a person. Sometimes it could be a secret that a person has shared. You couldn’t keep the information to yourself. You disclosed it to someone else. Women and gossip are mutually inclusive.

Gossiping Is Bad

Gossip has several repercussions. It might just be a rumour. It will damage the reputation of the person that you are gossiping about. It might entirely be false if you are circulating a wrong rumour.

If the event is true instead of gossiping about it, shouldn’t we be comforting or consoling the person? It makes you untrustworthy and a bad friend. If you are a mother and you indulge in gossip, maybe your children are learning to do it as well. 

If you cannot talk about the good things happening to someone, you have no business talking about the bad stuff. Stop this habit to gossip about women.

Gossiping about your boss, friends, just shows that you are insecure. Maybe even jealous of their success. You are trying to hide the insecurities behind the gossip. It reveals your darker side. It shows that you are not an interesting person yourself. 

The conversation you have depends entirely on the gossip that you have heard.  Gossiping is bad for your mental health as well.

The idea that women involved in gossip should hate a common person, a mutual dislike is wrong. It’s not true. Any friendship that has negativity as its base cannot be long-lasting. If somebody has shared a secret with you. Learn to keep it to yourself. Somebody has trusted you with their personal secrets.

Also, if you have heard about something during a gossip session think about it. Is the information true? Should you do something about it? For example, if you have heard that someone is cheating on your friend. Instead of gossiping about it, go to the root or source of this rumour. Find out if it’s true. If it is then let your friend know.

How To Avoid Gossip?

Women and gossip go hand in hand. It’s a mystery, ‘Why do women indulge in gossip?’ But it is extremely sad. Let’s see how we can avoid gossiping.

  • Never indulge in gossip about women you are not familiar with. If your friends ask you to, politely decline and change the topic. You don’t know anything about that person.
  • Tell your friends that you do not enjoy talking about someone else’s life behind their backs.
  • Gossip can sometimes be a rumour. Remember these rumours can be false and it can hurt somebody’s sentiments.
  • Never be a part of any conversation that has nothing to do with you. Women involved in gossip cannot be trusted.
  • If your friends are always gossiping, perhaps they are toxic. It is time to look for new friends.
  • Try to defend the subject of gossip. Look at it through the victim’s point of view. Make the gossipers realise what the person might be feeling about it if they find out. Or under what circumstances the event of gossip has occurred. We can all be a little more sensitive.
  • People tend to engage in gossip so that they are not left alone. Trust us, you are better off alone than with such a toxic group of people.
  • Tell the gossipers that you are not interested in gossiping at all.
  • If you are not able to stop yourself from gossiping. Try saying it all out in front of a Non-living object like a plant. This will eventually lead to a reduction in the habit of gossiping.
  • Don’t be judgmental. Try to picture yourself in that person’s shoes.
  • Make sure not to initiate a conversation that could potentially be a gossip.

Gossip is a waste of time. It might portray you negatively. Talking behind somebody’s back, badmouthing them and starting a rumour is very unhealthy. With initiatives such as #MeToo movement, #WomanSupportingWoman, it is a downside to women empowerment.

Let’s make women and gossip mutually exclusive terms. It is important to understand that gossip will have a severe impact on your friendship. To avoid it is the best solution. To become an honest and reliable person you need to stay away from gossip as far as possible.