Tips For Anger Management At A Stressful Workplace

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Being at work is not like being around your family and friends. You always have to be professional and maintain appropriate workplace conduct. Working life can often be very hard, aside from the fact that the work itself might always be challenging you, you might not really like all of your colleagues or co-workers, or you might not particularly get along with your boss. And anger management at work can be hard sometimes.

However, we all need to work, and you can’t really have a calm, successful working life if you’re getting into fights with people who are rude to you, or if you’re having trouble dealing with work conflicts. It’s important that you remain cool and collected when you’re at work, at all times. You have to stay calm. You don’t want to give your employer the wrong idea, or distract yourself from your work. But this can be quite hard sometimes, depending on the situation. So how do you keep a cool head and keep your anger in check?

Be kind

If people are bothering you and are distracting you from your work for a long time, obviously, you have to be polite and tell them that you’re working in the nicest way possible. However, don’t snap at people without reason. If a colleague has come to you to explain a problem, try to hear them out and be a support system for them. It’s a good idea to be on good terms with your colleagues at work, and you need to think of yourself as a good human being before you think of yourself as a worker bee. However, if someone is bothering you beyond your limit, you can very kindly tell them that you are free to discuss it later, but you have work to do now. Remember, you never know what someone else might be going through or what kind of help they might need.

Cancel out stressful thoughts

A lot of people believe in the power of positive thinking. If you’re worried about a certain meeting or a presentation, just dismiss negative thoughts that keep appearing in your brain. Or if that’s not possible for you, try to replace them with a positive affirmation. So, instead of thinking “no one is going to listen to me at this meeting”, try telling yourself “I have some really good ideas and I’m going to pitch them at the meeting”. Stay calm and cool.

Approach big problems with the right mindset

If you’ve got a huge project that’s been assigned to you, and you really don’t know where to begin, don’t get all frazzled. Just approach it more simply; try to break it down into doable blocks till it seems like less of a burden. If you like, you can make a to-do list with the details of each small task so you can tick them off as you achieve something small. This will help you stay on track and make you feel less like you’ve got a mammoth thing to achieve. Your task or project will feel much more achievable. Don’t panic!

Avoid the negative crowd

At every other workplace, there’s a person who’s always complaining, who has a host of problems, and who can’t seem to ever have a good day. Now no doubt some of these issues have credibility, but if you’ve already tried to listen to them and this negativity (women particularly feel obligated to hear out people’s problems and try to solve them), and tried offering solutions to no effect, just keep your distance. Having to deal with more negativity will just make you frustrated and prone to getting angry at work. 

Try to use calming techniques

If you’ve just heard a snide remark from your co-worker, or a project you worked really hard on has been dumped…breathe. Try to count backwards from ten, or twenty, or fifty, or whatever you need. Bring your mind to a place of calm. If possible, take a break, go to an empty room, and try some quick meditation. It’s natural to be upset, but the workplace is not the right place to vent your anger. You can do it over the phone to your mom or friends later. Also, make sure you’re not drinking too much caffeine, because that will just agitate you further. 

Even at the best of times, it can be hard to deal with a workplace which is high-stress. Yes, some workplaces are more chill, but it’s just your luck what you get. You might have a very demanding boss and co-workers, and unless you seriously want to leave your job, you’ll have to somehow manage your anger at work. Try to make sure you have good people around you, like a strong friend network, to help you through it, and make sure you’re doing some exercise or hobby that will give you something to focus on when you’re not at work. Anger management is definitely the way to go here!