You might know about masturbation as the alternative term for ‘solo sex’ . Did you know that mutual masturbation is also a thing? Well, it very much is. But having hand sex with your partner is different from this. Mutual masturbation is masturbating yourselves but together. And the best part is that you don’t necessarily have to be in the same room for this solo play. You can even indulge in this through phone sex! 

How Is Couple Mutual Masturbation Better? 

Besides the obvious aspects of pleasure, it tends to be more fun and exciting than doing it all alone. This is mainly because when your partner is watching you, things tend to get hot and heavy on their own. And if you’re side by side, then oof, it gets even hotter. Mutual masturbation is also a great way of getting intimate with your partner. It can be both vulnerable as well as powerful at the same time, but that’s the fun part, right?

Through this way, your partner would be able to learn a lot about your likes and dislikes. As they’d be seeing how you do it, they’d get to know what turns you on the most. So that they can use those tricks with you in the bedroom too. If your partner isn’t too familiar with the concept of sex toys, mutual masturbation can be a great way to change that. They’d be able to see for themselves and might just end up loving the idea! 

Sex toys and sex talk is anyways one of the hottest combos. It can even serve as a hot opening or beginning before you both go head to the intercourse part.  And perhaps the best part about it is if you’re in a long-distance relationship with your partner, mutual masturbation will keep the spark. It’s versatile too and it can be sexy to watch your partner pleasure themselves while you do the same!

Mutual Masturbation Positions

There are a bunch of positions you could try out when it comes to mutual masturbation: 

1. Lying Down Side by Side

This is one of the easiest positions wherein both you and your partner would be lying beside each other. It’s a great position to try out especially if either of you feels nervous about the whole act.

Lying down side by side
Lying down side by side

It tends to make things easier for both of you as it gives you the option of convenience. For instance, eye contact can increase the intensity of things. So, you can simply roll over and look your partner in their eyes whenever you want to. And if you feel that you’re not ready, you have the option to not do it too. 

2. Mutual Missionary 

This position is just like a missionary but only with a little twist of self-pleasuring. As one of you lays on your back, the other gets on the top. You could also play with your partner by sucking their fingers or even your own. And you could also tease their erogenous zones to get them fully turned on. 

3. A Complete Face-Off

If you’re one of those who like to go bold and wild, then this position is definitely for you! In this position, both of you would be sitting with your legs wide open and facing each other. This also gives both of you a sense of power and shows the other person an establishment of trust. 

How can you Make it Better? 

Mutual masturbation is itself enough to heat things between you and your partner. But if you want to add an extra touch of your own, here’s how you can do it: 

mutual masturbation
mutual masturbation
  • Switch up positions. That way you’ll explore different ones and enjoy the fun too.
  • Put erotic or sexy music in the background to set the mood. Or you could even put on porn if neither of you is big on making noises.
  • Adjust the lighting of the setting to make it more intimate. Light up some scented candles if you want or just go with the classic dim lighting.
  • You could even spice things up more by using sex toys.

Things to Keep in Mind

Couple mutual masturbation can be sexy and fun but you should always keep certain things in mind: 

  1. Consent is the most important factor in not just this, but any sexual or intimate act. In this case, if your partner wants you to wash and dry your hands before touching them, you should do it. You could also use barrier protection instead if you want. And the same goes the other way round.
  2. Also, if either of you feels like stopping at any point, then you shouldn’t feel forced to continue. So, make sure you have that much confidence and trust in each other.
  3. Communicate. Talk to your partner about mutual masturbation but don’t expect them to necessarily be up for it. Everyone has different preferences and neither of you should indulge in something that doesn’t make you feel comfortable.
  4. Even if you’re already in the act and don’t feel like continuing or just feel uncomfortable, let your partner know. Try telling them what’s bothering you or that you just can’t seem to continue but you don’t mind watching. Anything basically, that works for you.
mutual masturbation
mutual masturbation
  1. If your partner isn’t comfortable with the usage of sex toys, then don’t push it.
  2. Sexually transmitted infections or STIs can spread due to contact with semen or vaginal fluids. So, make sure you’re safe in this area.

At the end of the day, just remember that sexual activity is solely for pleasurable purposes. So, if a certain sexual act, style, or position makes you feel the opposite instead, then you need to drop it. You don’t have to do anything that doesn’t make you feel comfortable. Mutual masturbation is an underrated sexual act. So, the next time you and/or your partner are looking for something new, you could go for this! 

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