How To Know If You’re Bisexual

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Ananya Bhattacharjee
Writer. Musician. Mother. Reading, music and travelling are all time favourites. Been into ‘writing’ from the last 10 years and have become an everlasting love since I started.

You are a woman and you go out with your friends and talk about the guys in the bar. Suddenly your eyes fall on a hot lady and you get attracted to her. Are those signs of bisexuality?

You go to a concert with your guy and you get more attracted to the girl sitting by your side. Am I a bisexual?

Find out if you have signs of bisexuality.

Finding out if you’re bisexual and want to be in a bisexual relationship is extremely difficult and confusing.

You get feelings for both men and women and the media and society portrayal of bisexuality is not even close to sanity! For many people across the world who have come out openly as a bisexual person, it hasn’t been easy. It took them some time to come out with such an identity.

How to know if you are bisexual? (signs of bisexuality in females)

Understanding signs of bisexuality in females:

Only you can explore your bisexuality and accept that, no one else can do that for you! The definition of being bisexual is hard to put a finger on.

It is because it gets different individuals under this ‘bisexual’ umbrella identifies themselves differently. Though bisexuality refers to the attraction for both men and women, this definition doesn’t include genders and sexes that fall outside the traditional binary.

The past relationships of a person do not mean the person has to behave in a certain way now.

For example, if a person dated guys earlier but now is attracted to men and women, the chances of that person being a bisexual are definite.

If a person is attracted to both genders and wants to prioritize relationships one over the other, then there are high chances those are signs of bisexuality and the person is bisexual.  

Reflect on the attraction for the person:

There are times when you might be confused about your feeling and do not understand the track for how to accept it.

As the sexuality of a person develops, he/she may start having feelings for attraction to certain people, and then as the person gets older, the person will be more confident and sure of the feelings.

If a person is trying to understand bisexuality, then it is important to reflect on the kind of attraction the person is experiencing. Sexual attraction for a person goes beyond liking a person.

The romantic/sexual attraction to more than one gender should occur more than once.

If you have observed that you are consistently feeling sexual and sexual attraction for a particular gender in the same way you’ve experienced for the other gender too, then they are the signs of bisexuality in you.

Accept the Labelling:

People label people, based on their feelings and identity. But it is up to you how you accept the label, how you allow others to label you as a bisexual person.

If you have read extensively on bisexuality and thought hard on the attraction you’ve experienced and you feel the labeling thing works best for you and for what you’re feeling, then it is definitely the signs of bisexuality.

signs of bisexuality

Feel empowered about Bisexuality Fantasies:

Your fantasies may be an indicator of whom you’re attracted to and what you’re experiencing.

Though it’s not a conclusion, that just because you like seeing gay porn and regular porn, you become a bisexual. People fantasize about different kinds of sexual acts but don’t act upon it.

However, if the person fantasizes about indulging in sexual acts with more than one gender frequently, or even experiment and feel comfortable in doing so, then those are signs of bisexuality and the person is definitely bisexual.

More specifically, if after having sex with a specific gender, the person continues to feel a regular attraction to more than one gender then the person is bisexual.